Emotions result from our experiences. Whatever we go through, emotions are there, and they result in different forms. They shape us. They mold our opinions and experiences. Emotions tell us what to do and think, which is why it is important to listen to them to know when you have to control them before they can control you. It is true that emotions can guide us but they can also control us if we let them be. And letting them control us can have a negative effect.
Emotions themselves are not negative at all. For example, fear or anger. They are not negative emotions but how you let them take control over you and what you do because of these emotions can be negative. If you have your emotions in control, you can refrain from doing anything that can influence negativity. So learn to listen to your emotions, whether it is grief or happiness. Let it speak to you because bottling up emotions can explode into a messy scene leaving you shattered and empty. There are different emotions that speak to you on a daily basis but at different levels, some of them are mentioned below.
Bitterness is that feeling that takes over you when you are judgmental about others or yourself. If you have any unresolved resentments, there is a hundred percent chance of you being bitter about it. Whether the resentment is for something you did or anyone else, unless it is resolved, you will be bitter. So listen to this emotion to work it out rather than holding long-lasting grudges or judgments.
Sadness, the depth of grief. It can be either in depression or melancholy, in both ways, sadness tells you about the dept of the feelings inside of you, or your care for someone, or the world. Sadness often resides within us when our most wanted wish is not granted, or when it has been taken from us. Sadness can come all at once, or in waves with time. You need to listen to it, to the depths of your grief to make peace with it, because if it stays for long, it will turn into depression.
Anger is not a negative emotion entirely. It expresses your passion, your boundaries, what you believe in, and what you want to change about this world. It often comes up because of your deep concern for something or someone, listen to what it says so you can have it in control before it controls you and compels you to do things you will regret later.
When you are given the opportunity to change, to do something different than how you usually and typically do, mostly when standing up for yourself or anyone else for a cause, that is when discomfort comes in, that is what discomfort encourages you to do. Discomfort makes you pay attention to what’s happening right now, and what you need to do to change it.
Disappointment speaks when you know you have given your best, but it still did not work out. It tells you that you have tried your best, that you did not give in to apathy, that despite the failure, you still care. Use your disappointment to a good cause, and come back with a much more effort and faith in yourself.
Guilt makes a person feel the worst and the best at the same time. Worst, because it makes you feel that what you did was not right and that you need to stop doing it ever again. Best, because it helps you understand the person you don’t want to be. It makes you responsible for your actions. Guilt makes you repent for your wrong. It makes you forgive yourself for what you did in order to move on.
Shame helps you see that you are drifting from yourself and focusing on internalizing other people’s beliefs about who you should be, or who you are. It makes you feel that you need to reconnect with your soul again, that you are what matters, you are original.
Resentments give rise to bitterness. But what gives rise to resentment? When you feel resentment for something or someone, you should know that you are living in the past, and not allowing yourself to live in the present. It shows you that your judgment is clouded because of past events. You need to listen to it to let it go so you can move on.
Regret is the same as guilt. It makes you ponder about your wrongdoings, to give you another chance to undo what you have done, or to refrain from ever doing it again. Regret makes us see who we really are and who we want to be. So if you want to be a good person, you will use your regret in a positive way. In case you use it in a negative way, you will do deliberately do what you regret out of the consequence. So listen to it before it controls you.
Fear shows you how much you care about something or someone, that it sets boundaries for you, stopping you from doing things that would hurt them or make you lose them. But when fear is not in control, it can be a hindrance to you in your life by stopping you from many opportunities that matter. So control your fear before it controls you. Face them with courage.
Emotions can build you and destroy you, so if you listen to them and hear what they have to say to you, you can prepare yourself for the worst and the best-case scenarios, you would know how to react and behave regarding these emotions. But if you let them take control over you, you will end up doing things you regret later and will hurt others, including yourself. So let them speak, and listen to what they have to say to you.
Tell us in the comments do you listen to your emotions and how do you control your emotions?